Better than Ever

It’s been a long time since I wrote on this blog. Over a year in fact since I have posted anything of substance. I’m sure most of my readers have long since stopped visiting because of the lack of posts and interesting information to read. I don’t blame you – I really don’t. I haven’t made this blog a priority and therefore I’ve lost many that I considered loyal followers and also friends. So here I am pleading with you all to come back. I’m hoping to get a chance to start visiting blogs again soon and leaving comments because that is how you generate traffic – you comment on someone’s blog, they go to yours, hopefully comment back – others see this and all of a sudden you’ve got mail!

A lot has happened to me since my last post on this blog. First and foremost – my second marriage ended. In fact, I was divorced in Dec-08. It has been a blessing and a curse. It has been a blessing because I no longer have to see that man on a daily basis. Luckily we did not have children together and my children from my first marriage have a stable relationship with their father. Secondly, it has been a blessing because there is no stress in my love life right now – we were able to move on and past the hurt and when all was said and done – things ended fairly. It has been a curse because as soon as people find out you are once again single – they want to set you up with every Tom, Dick and Harry they know. Such was the case a few months ago (ex2 and I split in June of last year) when my friend wanted to set me up with her friend that had been divorced for over a year.

I was game because I was ready to have some fun – not have a commitment and to just see what was out there. I’d been out of the dating world for over 8 years and a girl has to try out her options – ya know. So I decide what the hell – why not go on the date – he was an older man (I am 33 and he had just turned 50). I was ok with the age difference – I had never dated someone that was that much older than me – but I figured what the hell. So we met for a drink and had a few laughs. We ended up going to the casino – spending a few hundred dollars at the black jack tables – and later ended up at his house for drinks. I can’t say that I was infatuated, but my interest was piqued because we had a really good conversation and laughs. So we see each other a few more times and then all of a sudden I’m getting the cold shoulder. I thought things were going well – but I guess I was wrong and I then learn that he is getting back together with his ex-wife….ugh the joys of dating. There are a lot of other facets to this story – crazy ex-wife hacking into email – the threats to my friend over the fact that I was seeing her ex-husband – an email directly to me about how sorry she was that she “messed up” my chance with her ex-husband. Needless to say – I’m glad that it ended.

About eight weeks after that happened – I was asked out directly by someone I met while on a GNO (Girls Night Out) with my friends. He was a spunky little waiter and kept the drink glasses filled and the check-out ticket low. So I decided what the heck – might as well give it a try. Now I have to preface this by saying that I was not (and am not) looking for a relationship by any stretch of the imagination. I just wanted to meet some new people. So we go out – we end up clubbing – which is something I hadn’t done in years. This guy took me to several different ones and spun my ass all over the dance floor. We had a great time and decided to meet up for sushi the next week. I got all dolled up and wanted to show this younger guy that I am not old (no comments from the peanut gallery) and can still turn some heads.

The night was going well – the sushi was great – the conversation was awesome – and the drinks were nice. I noticed after about an hour he kept getting text messages on his phone. I was wondering if there was some “waiter” emergency – and asked if everything was OK. He said things were fine – and we kept talking. However, the phone kept going off – more insistently than before – and I finally said “just call whoever is trying to get a hold of you” and excused myself to the ladies room to give him sometime to straighten things out. When I get back the check is on the table and he standing by the table waiting for me – saying he is really sorry – he has to go – and he suggests that I don’t stick around either. We walk to the parking lot and I finally stop and say “Enough – just be straight – what is going on!” Can you guess – CRAZY GIRLFRIEND – not ex-girlfriend – girlfriend as in currently seeing – as in she is having his baby – as in he asked me to go to a place that her friends frequent – as in we were spotted and crazy girlfriend is on her way to the place right now. So needless to say – when MR. WAITER called the next week – I told him to bug off – haven’t heard from him since –

So that is the update on the dating life – I’ll be back later with other entries as to what is going on with the rest of my life – such as having a teenager – having parents that can’t stand each other staying with you for a week during Christmas – my grandmother’s recent passing (it is sad – but there are a couple of funny memories that were made) – to work – to many other things….so please stay tuned.